386 – Use Subconscious Secrets to Reset Your Self Limiting Beliefs with Khrisna Avalon

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Now this week's show focuses on personal development,

addressing things that are part of your quote unquote being that

might be creating roadblocks to what you're trying to achieve.

Are you doing all the hard work and employing all sorts

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but seeing zero results,

it may be that you're subconsciously putting up barriers that don't

allow for change to happen.

Is your mind open and enough to consider this as a

possibility, you'll hear Krishna explained the role our subconscious plays and

what you can easily do throughout your day to affect change.

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So many of you I'd like to introduce you to Krishna

Avalon Krishna is a subconscious transformational guide life coach and licensed

and credentialed acupuncturist.

Who's worked with over 24,000

clients during her 18 years in practice Krishna's work helps people

expand their subconscious beliefs from what is limited or self-sabotaging.

Gosh, I know a lot of us can relate to this.

Her clients walk away feeling empowered as the creators of their

own lives.

She's here to talk with us about how important subconscious transformation

in your career and life overall can be and who can

benefit from this Krishna.

Welcome to the gift biz unwrapped podcast as is a tradition

here. I'd like to start with your motivational candle.

You can include in your description,

or maybe you can talk about this afterwards,

however you want to say it,

but I was very intrigued with what you did when we

first started talking.

So you lit a match and you were doing some things

over on that end.

So I'd like you to describe that for everybody.

And also then share with us what a motivational candle would

look like.

Yeah, I mean,

for me,

I was just lighting some sweet grass just to ground my

own energy and our space and prepare for a sacred conversation

and just the highest and best of my own voice and

clarity to come through.

So just setting that intention and I love fire.

I'm a fire sign.

So candles definitely resonate for me.

And I love that you do that in your podcast just

because it does in my imagination,

bring a ceremonial aspect and an intention to our conversation and

our intention in the world.

I never thought about it as ceremonial before,

but you're right.

I always think of it is it's a unique way for

someone to share who they are in addition to what I

talk about in the intro,

but the whole ceremonial idea,

I really liked that.

Yeah. And ceremony doesn't have to be this big,

long elaborate thing.

It can just be something that you bring intention to.

And it's really how I try to live my life.

So I made that.

Tell me about your motivational candle would be.

Yeah, and I love this so much,

but what I've come to understand about my purpose here on

earth. And I feel just so blessed to even know what

that is,

is like I'm really here to love and be loved.

And one of the things that I also just get so

lit up by and inspired by is holding space for people

to transform into believing that they are worthy of the very

best that love in life have to offer.

And so I love to facilitate that for people.

I love to help guide people into what they really want

and what lights up their hearts here to just help people

understand that we are so limitless as creators limitless.

That's my love language and an essence.

And if you ask me like what my color was,

I would definitely say some shade of pink,

maybe like a dusty rose,

just like that sweet,

soft, open,

receptive love.

And I mean,

I'm a fire sign.

I'm super feisty,

like by nature.

But the balance of that for me is like very soft,

feminine open.

And that's a lot of the people that come to me

to, for coaching is like super achieved,

successful just boss babes who are really brilliant and they're masculine

and now they want to understand how to be more feminine,

receptive in this other like aspect of expression.

So interesting.

So I'm very into what you do,

what you coach,

everything that you stand for.

But I can't say that I know really a lot about

it. I've heard this term holding space before.

What does that mean when you're holding space for somebody?

Yeah. And I love these questions because I think we do

hear a lot of things,

especially now with the kind of work that I do.

I'm in this education phase of it,

just like I was when I was first an acupuncturist almost

20 years ago,

people didn't really know what acupuncture was.

They didn't know what it could do for them.

It was still illegal in many states to become an acupuncturist.

And so same thing with the subconscious mind,

I'm in this education phase of it.

Cause we've heard about it now,

a lot,

it's trending in the spiritual wellness world,

but I'm teaching people now like how magical the subconscious is.

And as far as holding space,

it's like you've been in the presence of somebody who can

be present with you,

no matter how you are,

you can show up as you are,

whether you're angry,

you're overwhelmed,

you're messy or sad,

you're chaotic.

And that person is just able to be with you without

making it their own without matching your energy,

without making it about themselves.

They're just in a place where they have done their own

work. They know how to be in their own energy and

be with you.

And you can feel that when you're with someone,

right? So accepting people who they are at that moment in

time when they're with you is opening space.

You could be where you are with your energy and they

can be where they are.

And you can respect each other's spaces of how you've shown

up at that given time.

Yeah. And it would really in a short way of explaining

it, just being present with somebody,

being able to be present with someone and hold space for

whatever they're going through and whatever their own experience is presence.

Yes. And so the first thing that comes to my mind

with this is how we all are so busy in our

life. We all have our own agendas.

And I think often we don't take a minute to think

of where that other person might be coming from before we

start with our agenda with them could be on a phone

call, you know,

they pick up the phone,

you know,

maybe you don't even know if anyone has time to talk

with you or you're at a meeting or something.

People are diving right into their goal for your time together

versus registering where that other person is that you're talking to.

Does that make sense?

Is that right?

Yeah. And I think that's great.

So share with me a little bit about how you came

to see this as your mission for your life.

Hmm. I mean my personal story and the lessons that I

came into this world having to navigate for one,

and then I think I've been a healer forever lifetimes,

if you believe in that kind of thing.

And so acupuncture school for me was the very first thing

in my life that I ever committed to and trusted 100%

and never looked back,

never doubted I'd say that becoming a mom was the second

thing, mothering,

very natural for me.

And then the third thing was this process that I was

trained in with the subconscious mind,

like I'm a really successful,

really good acupuncturist,

really good space holder.

I guide ceremonies.

That's all very natural for me,

but it would have taken something super special for me to

switch career paths.

And I started learning about the subconscious mind.

I was like thing.

Like my intuition just came online and I just went towards

it sorta like I did with acupuncture school,

not in the same way,

but I knew that it was something that I wanted to

train in.

And it's because the subconscious mind creates 90 to 95% of

our lives and our experiences.

And it's because it's where our beliefs are held.

And a lot of people's beliefs are not conscious,

but they're exactly where our memories are stored our autopilot,

our habits.

And so it is how we create life.

And so most people are working with their conscious minds,

which is important and the conscious mind feeds into the subconscious,

but the subconscious is the heavy,

heavy hitter.

And it's the powerhouse.

If you know how to work with the subconscious,

it's just going to be so much quicker and it's going

to be the direct route to being able to create as

you want it to be.

And also to be able to reroute in your mind from

something that's been stressful,

traumatic or something you're in a feedback loop with,

it's consuming your thoughts.

So let me stay right here for a minute just to

make sure that we're all with you about these definitions.

Okay. Because we've got the conscious,

which I think we all know,

well, I'm going to let you define them,

but I also want to include unconscious in there because I

don't want people to confuse unconscious versus subconscious.

So let's take all those three just really quickly.

So we make sure we're all together in the conversation.

I love that so much.

And so our conscious mind is how we make decisions.

It might be how we're trying to make affirmations.

It might be people who have been in talk therapy for

a long time or a short period of time.

They're working with their conscious mind.

The unconscious is the stuff we're not aware of.

And then the subconscious that's where our beliefs are held.

And a lot of those beliefs can be unconscious.

So I like to say like,

if you're looking at an iceberg and we see that little

top part of the iceberg,

that's maybe 10% of the iceberg.

That's the conscious mind,

all that stuff beneath the surface that goes deep and dense.

That's the subconscious.

And so that's everything that the conscious pours into that we've

learned since the beginning.

Like since our conception,

the information we received since then,

I don't know if the right word is a disconnect from

what's really happening or it's just an understanding of what's really

happening because it feels like the way,

I guess I'll just speak for myself.

I'm not going to speak for anybody else,

but I think I'll be probably representative of other people too,

is I have to be conscious to work throughout my day.

Right? Like I have a cup of coffee here.

So I'm going to be very conscious about having purchased the

coffee, bringing it into the office,

being on this interview with you.

Anything that I do throughout the day,

I'm feeling,

I'm drawing on my conscious thought because that's how I actually

do things,

achieve things,

move my arms.

Like I'm intentional about opening my mouth and talking with you.

And that feels like that's conscious to me.

And you're saying that virtually that's only 10% at most,

you know,

five, 10% of our mind.

Right. So then I'm just going to follow through my very

unexperienced knowledge with this.

Just what I'm thinking.

But in talking with you and the little bit of exposure

that I've had to some of this,

I'm thinking now that subconscious things that have been ingrained in

me that I've picked up over time,

that I've learned that I think to myself,

initiate whatever conscious actions I create,

is that right?

Yes, that's exactly.

Exactly, exactly.

Right. So again,

the, that habits and what I can tell you in my

own journey with this,

my training in that all these people that have been able

to guide through this work,

it always comes down to very contracted and very limited beliefs

about ourself worth and what we deserve.

And a lot of that is like your conscious mind might

be like,

I deserve to make this much money,

or I deserve to be treated like this in a relationship.

But if your subconscious mind has never had the experience or

seen that,

that's actually what happens for you.

It won't happen.

And we don't even know that.

That's what we're saying to ourselves.

No most people have zero idea.

Now some people,

because the subconscious mind is training in the spiritual health wellness

world, maybe even the mental health world,

people are starting to understand how powerful it is,

but they don't have the tools to work with it.

And so that's what this process that I was trained in,

which is so simple and your conscious the whole time,

and it can be done in person and virtually.

And it's just so quick.

That's why people are may able to make changes that they

haven't been able to make working with the conscious mind.

And so some of the most amazing transformations I've seen with

people are those people who've been in talk therapy for so

long. They consciously and intellectually understand why something is that's helpful,

but they're still stuck.

They're still angry.

They're still reactive.

They're not creating life as they want it to be.

They're repeating cycles in relationship or money or whatever.

Right. I haven't been able to create that new pathway.

So this work allows for what's called neuro-plasticity.

And that means the brain's ability to make changes and to

have a new pathway,

to go down and have a new experience.

I've heard of that before.

It's kind of like repaving the street or something,

or choosing a different way to get somewhere and your brain

and the things that you're thinking now,

it doesn't have to stay that way.

You can literally recreate how your thoughts are happening,

which is so fascinating to me.

So I don't know if this falls in line or not,

but I'm thinking now with subconscious,

there may be things that have been reinforced with you over

and over again,

for example,

you may have unsupportive parents.

I'm just going to go with that.

Cause it's the first thing that comes to mind.

So all the time that you have been a child,

all those formative years,

there were messages coming down to you that you were less

than, or you couldn't achieve,

or money's hard to make,

doesn't grow on trees.

Like, you know,

whatever those stories are that you get.

Right? And then there's also to my way of thinking,

I'm gonna ask you if I'm right on this and how

this fits us.

But then there's also that one person who says one thing

to you,

like maybe it's your math teacher who says you are not

good with numbers.

And because you respected that person so much,

it really hit you.

And it sets a path for your whole life that you've

decided you're not good with numbers.

So it could be someone who's continually telling you something like

appearance situation,

or it could be a one-time powerful statement that gets stuck

in your subconscious,

that you keep repeating.

That's correct.

And so that information starts coming in,

but something like the math teacher reinforces it.

And it's like a very clear path in the forest of

your mind.

It's very,

very clear because you've gone down it a bazillion times.

It doesn't mean that it's true.

And it doesn't mean that it's good for you.

It just means that that is the belief that you've.

And so that pathway is clear.

Why do we put so much more weight?

I think on the negative thoughts versus the positive thoughts?

Like why would we choose then to refined things in reaffirm

that we're not good at math versus having figured out the

change for your first dollar for when you were little for

your first sale and saw that you did it right?

And then be like,

no, I can do math.

You know,

why do we go towards that negative versus the positive mostly.

Right. And I just think for one it's human behavior,

it's easier to believe the negative things about ourselves or the

things that keep us small.

And then I'm going to go ahead and blame it on

the conditioning of society that reinforces that you need something outside

of yourself to feel better,

that you won't be happy until this happens.

And I have worked with people who have an account,

remember like what religion it is.

But like,

there are a couple where they don't watch TV.

They're not watching movies.

They just believe that they are a divine expression of God.

And so they're never taught those beliefs from a young age.

And whether some of us might look at those people and

be like,

they're crazy.

They also are like very empowered as creators because they never

had the conditioning.

That was like,

they're not good enough.

They've never been imprinted by the societal judgment,

if you will.

That's right.

Or the movies or the music,

you know,

there's so much good pop music that is so disempowering,

it's codependent.

Like I can't live without you type things or like,

I'm not going to be like,

I need drugs if you're not around me.

You know what I mean?

That's so much messaging that just gets repeated through movies,

through TV,

through music.

And gosh,

you know,

in any single day,

all of us are just bombarded by things that we don't

even recognize are coming in.

And those impressions,

I guess,

are being made all the time and we can't change it

unless we're going to do what you were just talking about

with that couple where you kind of barricade yourself off almost,

which I think is unrealistic for most of us.

What do we do to manage through this and to handle

it? Do you have any tips for us?

I want to get it at the very end.

I want to talk with you about how you work,

what your sessions look like,

all of that,

but can you share with us some things that we can

do to better ourselves in this area to counteract it,

whatever you might say,

just so we walk away with something tangible to start getting

a feel for all this.

Yeah. And I really like to meet people where they're at.

You know what I mean?

So starting with things that are very doable,

but very powerful and impactful,

just like I was lighting some sweet grass to start our

conversation. I mean,

before you even get out of bed in the morning,

you really could set an intention.

You could imagine how you want your life to feel and

connect with the feeling you could journal.

And so the subconscious mind loves repetition.

So if you set an intention in the morning,

remind yourself of that several times throughout the day.

Yes, that's a conscious mind behavior,

but repetition and also connecting to your intention,

combined with practicing,

what that would feel like changes the way that your cells

are responding in your body.

It changes your electromagnetic frequency.

It's like when people are trying to manifest or create money

or love,

but they're like really tense and like angry and upset and

like pissed that it's not happening.

You're not going to be as an effective creator as you

are. If you just like repeat your intention to yourself and

practice connecting the feeling with that.

So that is a really powerful thing.

That's worked for me.

It's how I guide people when they're here on my treatment

table and I'm taking them through a meditation,

practicing feeling what you want and what do you want.

Sometimes I ask people what they want and they don't know.

We want to focus on what we want.

We don't want to focus on what we don't want.

And again,

to your point before,

why is it so easy to focus on the negative?

Everybody knows what they don't want,

how many people actually know what they want.

That is so true.

And I see that a lot.

You know,

one of the first things I talk about with my students

is what do you envision your business to look like?

Define it for me.

And many times they've only gone to the point of,

I want to have a business making candles.

They haven't gone to anything else,

any of the other details.

So if it's like that with something as finite as what

a business would look like,

I can only imagine what do you want for your life?

You know,

like how much more intricate that would be.

So just the thought of doing that gives me pause and

is really interesting to think about,

but I'm going back to myself and thinking you say,

and this makes total sense to me.

You say,

you need to be calm.

You need to feel it.

And you need to be calm as you're envisioning,

or as you're drawing attention to what you want for the

day or whatever.

How do you do that?

If you're not naturally a calm person,

I wake up and I'm like,

okay, this is what I'm doing.

This is what I'm gonna do.

This. I'm gonna do out of bed,

go to it.

And for me,

it's like,

get my coffee,

get to the desk and get to work type a a

hundred percent.

That's your habits.

That's your subconscious.

Like, I need to do this to be productive,

to prove my worth,

to know that I've done a good job,

that I'm a good person,

that I'm helping people.

And so practicing the feeling as if like,

if you've ever felt peace or common,

intentional, you can draw upon that.

You can notice where you might feel it in your body.

If you do connect with your intention,

you can grow that.

I try to,

sometimes one visual that works for people is like imagining yourself,

like a scuba diver up at the surface.

And you drop down from where it's noisy and loud,

and you go into the quiet,

still place of your heart.

And then from here imagining what you want to feel more

of in your life.

And just sit with that for 30 seconds.

Even before you jump out of bed and start running around,

and then do that several times throughout the day before you

get on each podcast meeting,

before you want to have a talk with your husband or

your kid,

you know,

I did that with you before we got on,

like, how do I want this to feel connect with that

in my body,

set an intention,

light, a little sweet grass.

My son does this to me sometimes.

Like he was just in recently and he saw me and

I don't think my type a personality as a positive thing

at all,

you know,

in terms of my running and doing and getting things done,

you know,

all that.

But at one point he's like,

mom, stand,

still breathe for a second.

So he's doing kind of what you were saying.

He was pushing me into just stand for a second reflect,

take a deep breath reset.

So it's really interesting How fun He's 34.

I know he's very into all of this.

And so I'm learning from him also,

but just that memory,

which was just a couple of weeks ago,

came up to me just by way of what you were

saying, like throughout the day,

take a minute.

And I'm also thinking to what we were talking about earlier.

Leaving room for people is for us to make it really

applicable when you have a meeting with somebody or,

you know,

like breathe for a second and make sure that you're going

to take the time to understand where they're coming from first,

before you just dive in right away.

Oh my gosh,

Krishna, this is something I'm going to use already.

Like starting from the time we get off this call is

just to take time during the day.

And like you said,

30 seconds who can't afford 30 seconds,

you know,

two or three times a day,

even just to start.

Yeah. And I mean,

again, it's that reroute.

So the repetition is going to help you reinforce.

If you've done some subconscious work,

your new belief,

or it's just going to help get you,

you know,

the conscious mind you have to work so much harder to

make change or create expanded beliefs,

but repetition will help get you there and connecting with a

more relaxed,

ideally a theta state in your brainwaves,

which is like the point right before you get to sleep,

which is why first thing in the morning.

And then when you're about to go to sleep are the

most powerful times for meditation and this kind of stuff,

because you're closer to the feta where you're more receptive.

I see.

Okay. And when we're talking about that,

you do these quick,

like check-ins or resets,

how does that connect with some of the potential subconscious thought

that might come up for you?

Like the math thing?

Such an interesting conversation.

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Yeah. I mean,

I think that the conscious mind and your habitual thoughts are

we'll try to pull you out because again,

the conscious mind is working a lot harder than the subconscious.

Whereas if we expand your belief in the subconscious is not

going to be so hard for you to believe that you

are worthy of love,

that you have valued just as you are without having to

hustle, hustle,

hustle, prove that you're worthy because what you create because of

what you do.

And if you're happy like that,

great. But a lot of people are wanting to experience more

joy and they don't know why they're not.

And it's because they can't be present because they're in these

beliefs that they have to be a certain way to prove

that they deserve love.

Oh, that's powerful.

It's so powerful To prove that they deserve love.

Yeah, that's what it comes down to for so many people.

It's about not feeling worthy and deserving of receiving love.

Exactly. As you are a lovable of trusting yourself,

trusting that it's safe to be who you are and that

your voice matters and then safe to be seen.

Cause I work with a lot of creatives and coaches and

business people who are like,

have done all of the logistical practical stuff to get their

business stuff,

but they don't understand why the things aren't working.

And it's because the subconscious is ruling the show and the

subconscious is likely believing that you're not worthy of being seen,

that you're not worthy of being heard.

It's not safe to be who you are.

You're not worthy of having money,

which energetically represents freedom and choices and support.

Okay. So I want to tighten this up and bring this

closer to our listeners experiences.

I have somebody who makes essential oils.

They've done it for themselves for years.

They now have a business and they're selling essential oils sales.

Aren't going that well,

they're getting frustrated.

And what you just said is their subconscious is telling them

they're not worthy because they're equating selling their products to being

loved as the maker of the essential oils.

Let's say,

Yeah, the subconscious of very contracted and limited belief about something.

So if anybody out there in any scenario,

I'm just using something more concrete,

just for conversation purposes,

we're literally then sabotaging what we have stated we want.

And would it be right to say that pretty much in

a hundred percent of the cases,

that's what we're doing.

If we're not getting results,

I love that you're honing in and you're making so much

sense of this so quickly.

Yes. If your conscious mind and your subconscious have very different

beliefs or experiences,

it is like pushing on the gas and the brake at

the same time,

there's a conflict.

There's not harmony.

And so the first thing that you've just talked to us

about is a good first step.

Well, first I think the first step is understanding that that's

happening recognizing that this is at play.

And then to your point about setting intentions for the day,

and then checking in periodically throughout the day to reestablish the

feeling and kind of counteract what your subconscious might be telling

you. Well,

that's one way to start sort of tapping into the subconscious

and trying to create a new experience is what I showed

you with the visualizations and meditations.

But if you do this kind of work and maybe there's

other stuff,

you know,

EMDR is something that can work for some people What's the

EMDR, That's a talk therapist or a psychotherapist would be trained

in. And it also works with the subcontracts to give a

reroute from usually traumatic or stressful events,

whether it's past,

present or future in the same way that in a way

that site Kay,

would, that's the process that I'm trained in,

or you can do something like resourcing,

which is where you're building upon like,

say that peaceful feeling that you want to have.

So one way people can work with the subconscious and then

the other way for some people is hypnotherapy.

I don't personally love hypnotherapy because I want to be conscious

and I want to know what's going on in a session,

but that is the way to drop into the subconscious.

I also feel like from what I've experienced and I've experienced

so many beautiful healing modalities,

and I am just an embodied facilitator in the healing arts,

like this process of psych K and I don't like the

name, it stands for psychology and kinesiology,

which is muscle testing.

I call it subconscious transformation because that's essentially what it is.

But this process for me is the quickest thing and the

most direct route.

And then when you're doing the things like the visualization and

the meditation,

you're just reinforcing this new belief that you've created through the

subconscious transformation work.

Okay. All right.

Can you give us one more tip of another thing that

we can walk away with?

And then I want to get into how you work with

your clients and all that.

What I love about this is that we're not focusing on

what you don't want.

We're not focusing on the horrible things that have happened or

less horrible things that were just hooked and in a feedback

loop with,

we are concentrating on what you want so that you can

create an expanded belief.

So I would say for your listeners,

if they wanted to tip,

start focusing on what you want and what does that mean

for you?

Practice the feeling of it.

Yes. Practice,

knowing what you want.

You can journal with that once we know what we want,

we're going to then start making choices that support that.

And that's another reason people come to me is changing and

expanding their subconscious beliefs so that they feel worthy of feeling

sexy in their body of making choices that support their body,

mind and spirit.

Like how many people have been on diets or want to

feel different in their body.

And they get to a certain place with a cleanse or

a way of eating.

And then they just kind of fall back because they're in

a limited or self-sabotaging beliefs.

So I've worked with that a lot.

That makes sense.

I know I've heard the stories about this too,

where people let's say they lose a bunch of weight and

all of a sudden now they're attractive and they're getting additional

attention and they're not comfortable with it,

or they,

what you're saying,

don't feel like they deserve it.

And so they put on all that weight.

Well, it can also the,

to be about feeling safe,

to be seen,

feeling safe,

to be sexy as heck,

Right? A lot of women,

or maybe men will hold weight as armor and as a

shield because something happened where it wasn't safe for them,

or they had energy projected onto them that they didn't know

how to handle.

Yeah. That completely makes sense.

So focusing on what we want,

well, first identifying what it is and then reinforcing to yourself,

reminding yourself that that's what you want.

What happens when you get that?

You know,

you call it like the little mean girl on your shoulder

who starts talking to you.

You know,

if you're trying to focus on what you want and trying

to go more into your subconscious through meditation or something,

but those negative voices start talking.

And I love that.

And that's going to be our shadow energy.

That's going to be the wounding.

That's going to be the conditioning.

And so when we have the subconscious tools to work with

that wound and transform it,

then we can integrate that mean girl,

on the shoulder that Boyce love her.

Be like,

what do you need right now?

I've never heard that before.

Yeah. Acknowledging because a lot of us with trauma or stress,

we just want to push it away.

Now, look at it,

void it and not deal with it.

Right. Okay.

I hear you.

I'm going to keep focusing on what I want.

And this is conscious mind tips.

I'm giving you the subconscious working with that is going to

be like,

let's go,

Oh, The conscious mind can be like,

you know,

it's just going to take a lot longer.

But I would say,

when you hear that,

be like,

Hey, I hear you.

That's no longer true for me.

I'm gonna practice focusing on what I want.

And again,

practice feeling it in your body,

along with visioning it so powerful.

And then if you do that in the morning and the

night, most powerful and reminding yourself in the,

in the day so that you start making choices,

that support that.

Yeah. These are consistent themes.

I'm hearing from you the morning and the night are the

really the strongest places and the whole visualization also super strong.

And the other thing,

I guess I've heard,

I just want your comment on this.

I've heard when you have that mean,

girl on your shoulder talking is find instances where you can

prove to yourself that that's not true.

Well, and good luck with that.

Not working with the subconscious,

you know,

I'm not trying to be like it's DJing,

but you definitely want to acknowledge and be like,

oh, you're showing me where I'm hurting.

You're showing me where I'm contracted.

You're showing me where I'm limited.

Thank you.

Okay. So instead of fighting it or arguing,

debating, instead of that,

the fighting,

arguing, debating with it,

it's like,

thank you for this information.

Your subconscious telling me more of what you're feeling,

the subconscious part,

what you're feeling and where I need to work and okay.

I got it.

I got it.

Okay. Question.

Does that ever go away?

If you work with your conscious mind might start being able

to be with that a little bit more,

but for some people,

those triggers,

they are upsetting.

They make people feel sick.

They have avoid it.

It's too stressful or painful.

I mean,

that's why I didn't like ever connect with talk therapy.

I don't want to go and sit and talk about shitty

stuff that feels crappy.

I just want to get it off my body.

I want to move on.

I have the conscious awareness.

Great. Now how can I like move on three clear.

Okay. And so like,

we'll, I'll talk with people about,

you know,

what, going live on social media,

let's say,

yes. You're always going to be a little bit nervous.

Just click the button,

start talking.

People are going to show up who want to hear from

you that initial nerves before you do whatever it is I'm

just using that idea will always be there accepted.

It's fine.

You can live through it.

Don't worry about it.

Know that it's going to happen.

Click the button,

go live different from what you're saying here,

that you don't always have to be having that negative talk

coming in.

When you do subconscious work and do some healing,

it will go away or be dramatically reduced.

Is that right?

That, and you can create a more expanded beliefs.

So in the process that I'm trained in that I guide

people through,

we do balances.

And so the balance as the goal of them is to

get into what's called a whole brain state,

which means the left and the right hemispheres of your cerebral

cortex communicate clearly.

I'm one that happens.

That's when the subconscious mind expands and you can move on

and have a reroute from stress or trauma or in a

different balance.

You create a new belief.

Because again,

if the belief doesn't exist in your subconscious,

it won't happen.

Okay. Is this how you start working with people?

You define those two areas and then like,

identify what your client is dealing with.

And then you go from there.

Yeah. And just basically I would ask where do you feel

stuck and held back or unrepeat and then where do you

want to grow?

And we can just work with those.

Sometimes people show up and they have notes and they know

what they want to work on.

Some people show up in they're like,

I don't know,

I got all these things.

Something that's intuitive is going to know how to guide you

to the right place.

And so those are kind of the two main balances that

I'd worked with with somebody that's just doing like one,

two or three sessions,

is that information,

a stress balance or the belief statement balance where we're creating

bigger, more expanded beliefs.

And in a session we're doing it probably at least two,

because I am intuitive.

But even one balance is incredibly transformative for a lot of

people. And then I'm working with other people who do want

to do more subconscious transformation.

And like within five or six sessions,

I'm just watching people become absolutely different people In terms of

how they show up in the world,

What they are saying no to what they have boundaries with,

where they are growing.

And they're being seen and feeling safe to be seen what

they're able to be present with in themselves,

the joy that they're able to experience and then does this

like for again,

my community does this transform because all of that is happening

with them.

They're presenting their business in a different way.

And that leads to increased sales.

Could you make that extension?

Absolutely. And you know how,

like somebody might have training in something or do all the

like logical practical things,

but you can just feel in their expression that they are

not embodied in their experience.

Probably because they have the mean girl on the shoulder that

they haven't been able to like love and integrate and safe

feeling seen in the world and worthy of love,

deserving of lots of money,

whatever it is.

I see that a lot in my community.

And I'd mentioned when I was talking to you a little

bit, we were just connecting on who the listeners are here

because a lot of,

well, pretty much everybody here makes their own product or started

making their own product.

They have such a personal investment.

And every time somebody picks up a piece at a craft

show and then puts it down and doesn't buy it.

It's kind of like a personal,

you know,

like that.

Or someone walks away from the table and doesn't buy anything.

It feels so personal.

And I can observe when I'm talking with people,

how they don't necessarily speak with confidence or conviction or belief,

even though they love their product so much.

And their real purpose is they want to share their products

and all the goodness that they have with others.

It's not coming through and let's face it.

You know,

what we see from others will affect our reactions if we're

going to buy or not.

If someone's not confident and passionate showing the product,

you know,

or talking about the product,

what motivates me then to buy it.

That's what I'll see when I'm out at live shows,

when I'm talking with people in the community,

et cetera.

They're just not,

I'm not saying everybody obviously,

but they're just not presenting themselves or their products with that

confidence and that joy and that passion that I really do

know they have,

but they're just not showing it.

Yeah. I mean,

imagine being a creator in the world and you have the

belief, I believe in myself,

my voice matters.

What I have to offer is valuable.

I mean,

those are huge beliefs for people,

But it's one thing to say it,

it's another thing to really believe it.

And to have that as a subconscious belief again,

which is where you're going to just do the heaviest of

lifting and the most powerful transformation.

Yeah. It's mind is just going to take so much longer.

Yeah. That's something that you kept saying to trying to deal

with this directly through your conscious level is a much harder

road than going subconscious and working with it there.

Yeah. Of them working together.

And another tip,

the subconscious doesn't know what's real and not real.

And it doesn't understand past present and future.

It's only in the present literal tense.

So being mindful of what you scroll and watch for media,

if you're constantly watching a bunch of like war movies or

drama or stressful things,

your subconscious doesn't know the difference between what is actually,

I know that's blowing your mind right now,

You watching my face.

Is that what you would say in that?

Totally. And it's careful about like what I choose for one,

I have incurred like an incredible amount of interest.

There's so much I could do with my time,

but I don't watch movies and TV that much because of

that very thing.

I need to choose things that make me want to live.

Not things that make me stressed out and worried about everything

all the time.

Right. Well,

and the other thing that I think is a big force

of optimism is past present future.

Like what happened at a past craft show or a past

experience does not dictate what will happen in the future.

If you set your mind,

because you could also set your mind to make it happen

that way.

Okay. So how do you work with clients?

How would people work with you share a little bit about

that? Well,

virtually or in person site cake done both ways.

Again, session is very powerful for most everyone I've ever worked

with. Like,

I haven't met anyone yet who hasn't felt changed in their

life from one session,

three sessions is a really good place to start to do

deeper work in all aspects of your life.

And then some people are like,

this is what I've been waiting for my whole life.

I want to do 10 sessions and like expand all areas

of my life and move on from these stressful things that

have me on repeat.

So yeah,

no where you feel stuck in limited and where you're not

growing nowhere you want to grow.

And the people that I'm working with a lot now are

people wanting clarity,

people wanting to be present and have that feel good and

safe so that they can feel more joy and connection.

I'm working with a lot of women,

like I said,

who are super successful,

productive achievers,

boss, boss babes,

but they're like wanting to feel safe in the masculine.

They want to have a relationship where they feel feminine and

soft and open,

and that feels safe for them.

So I'm doing a lot of relationship coaching and love coaching,

which I love And move on from stress and trauma.

Wonderful. I think we can all be like,

oh my gosh.

Yes, yes,

yes. For us.

So where would people go and find you and learn more

about the types of things that you're offering?

Yeah. So I have a resources page on my website,

which is just my name,

Krishna Avalon.

They have some beautiful practices on their somatic meditations,

which just means connecting what your body's experiencing with what your

mind is believing.

So you get a sense of how I guide people.

There are some breath work practices on there that are very

powerful, but my website tells all kinds of stuff about me,

what psych K is,

what that process looks like,

what subconscious transformation would mean,

who could use it.

And then Instagram I'm on.

When I feel inspired to be,

I post in stories and people read those a lot.

I took Facebook down like 10 years ago.

Don't miss it one bit To your point of control,

what you're exposed to and what you're doing,

right? Yeah.

Yeah. All right.

Wonderful. So I love this because it's nice and simple.

I think the best place for people to go is your

website to learn more.

And as you guys know,

those are show notes page.

You can resource it there.

If you're out walking and need to go back and figure

out how you can connect with Krishna.

Thank you so much.

I knew this was going to be an interesting conversation cause

it's getting into areas that I don't know as much.

I feel like I know a little,

but not a lot.

And I've been enlightened for sure.

And I know a lot of our listeners have too,

so thank you so much Krishna for showing up today and

sharing with us all your goodness.

Thank you.

It's been fun to also watch you like hone in and

like get expanded in your own.

Like, oh my gosh,

that's possible.

So it's a good medicine for me to buy.

I have to admit,

I did not find it shocking to hear Krishna say that

most people really don't know what they want.

I've struggled at times to put my vision into words too.

So as we leave our time together today,

I'd like you to take some time and think about what

it is you truly want struggling with an answer.

That's okay.

It's a great place to start.

I also found the part about our subconscious,

not knowing what's real and not real and not being able

to differentiate between past,

present and future to be very powerful,

a concept to consider further and act on.

For sure.

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